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Dogs are our friends
and it is an absurd and abnormal thing to fear them: a child afraid
of dogs has a bad relationship with nature as well, and this disturbs
his character.
It has been proved that children that love animals have
a better relationship with their friends of the same age (as well
as with human adults); moreover children who panic and flee risk
more than others to be bitten (see the paragraph "Children and predatory
instinct" below).
Children often inherit from their parents - even only
through their attitude - the fear of dogs. Here is a useful piece
of advice:
For parents who fear dogs:
try to explain to yourself first, and to your children
next, that fear of the dogs may have a personal reason (like a shock
in their childood) but fortunately it is not an absolute: ninety-nine
per cent of dogs are absolutely harmless;
never shout or make abrupt movements if the child spontaneusly
approaches an unknown dog: this kind of behaviour scares the animal
and may induce the dog to believe the child is a threat to him;
do not tell the child things like "do not touch him,
he bites!" or "do not touch him, he's full of fleas!"; commends
like that, beside inducing the child to be afraid of dogs, do not
correspond to real dangers: fleas, if there are any, prefer to stay
on the dog and it is very difficult for them to pass onto humans,
whose blood is less attractive to them; as for the danger of being
bitten, remember that it is almost sure a dog who bites, while walking
on a leash with his master, is wearing a muzzle: if he isn't it
means the dog is friendly and there is no reason to be scared of
him; we can't predict the temperament of stray dogs: but they, as
they are not on a leash, can leave when they had enough of the child's
attention... and this is precisely what they do. Finally it is extremely
unusual for a dog to bite someone, if he is given the chance to
leave instead of attacking;
teach the child not to run and shout in front of a dog
(see box "Children and predatory instinct" below, next table).
For parents who don't fear dogs:
do not tell to a small child fairytales with a "bad
wolf" as a character, or try to explain (in a simple manner and
suitable for their age) that the "bad wolf" is a fictional character,
and real wolves do not eat people;
teach the child not to rush towards an unknown dog but
to approach him slowly, calling him and offering him a hand to sniff;
a correctly approached dog won't bite without warning;
explain to the child what are the signs an aggressive
dog gives (stiff hairs, drawn back ears, growl); let him understand
that this is the dog's language to communicate he doesn't want to
be touched, and that we have to respect his wish to be left alone;
as mentioned above, another always worthy rule is teaching
the child not to run or shout in front of the dog.
For parents who already fear dogs:
do not make the child approach dogs, just give the example,
stroking gently and playing with them, without ever forcing the
child to do it;
· show the child movies, documentaries and DVD that
present dogs as positive characters; let the child play with puppet-dogs;
never choose a puppy or a grown puppy for a first approach.
Puppies can't measure their love effusions: while playing, a puppy
can nibble shoes and trousers, a grown puppy can throw the child
to the ground to welcome him; in situations such as this, instead
of being reassured, the child will be scared, since he can't understand
the friendly purposes of the dog and, instead of solving the problem,
it will get worst. Thus, the best thing to do is choose a nice quiet
adult dog who loves children, a dog that lets people stroke him
gently and take him on the leash, as if he was... a living puppet
himself. A mature and calm Saint Bernard is the ideal dog for these
tasks of positive conditioning.
see final advices at previous points.
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